I have been meaning to write-up a blog post on my trip to Phoenix a few weekends ago. It was my first trip without my husband or kids in I think 7 years. That’s a long time to have not traveled alone farther than the other side of town, but it was something I really needed to do. I needed to do it for myself, for my sanity, to maintain my friendships and just for a break from taking care of other people.
I wanted to catch up with a friend whom I haven’t seen since her husband’s funeral. I was really worried about her and seeing that despite the tragedy of her husband’s sudden death, she is doing well. As good as can be expected. She’s busy, she’s making plans, she’s planning for the future and she’s slowly but surely moving on in a time that is sure to be painful for years. It’s just not easy loosing someone you love so much and she’s so strong and has always helped me to see things a little clearer in my life and I’m so glad she hasn’t lost that sense of perspective even in her own turmoil. She also has a lovely family and lots of close friends to help her through difficult times. So I know she will be ok, but I just had to see it for myself.
The rest of my weekend was hanging out with three awesome people who I’ve known since high school. I moved in with my friend Andrea in high school and we stayed at my friend Jessica’s house. They really helped me to just relax for a day with a pedicure, a delicious home cooked meal I didn’t have to prepare and the ability to enjoy great conversation, without having to leave due to kids who won’t sit still for long in a restaurant.
The morning I drove back to Flagstaff, we ate out at Coco’s for breakfast than went up to visit a friend of ours from Tennessee who came here for surgery. Her parents live in Cave Creek and being able to see her for a little while before I departed for home was really nice.
I wish it could have been longer, but being married and having kids really kind of shortens your hang out time with friends especially when they live hours away.
When I left, I was already missing my family and even though I enjoyed just taking care of myself for about 24 hours and having a little bit of alone time on my two-hour drive, I missed the hugs, cuddles and “I love yous” from my boys and my husband. I came back feeling refreshed and like I could tackle the next big toddler meltdown with a little more grace and patience than I did leaving for the weekend. Sometimes those little parenting frustrations feel so grand and overwhelming, that taking a step away for a while can help you assess what really matters.
I do still wish I had more away time from my kids. This trip marked the first trip I have left my four and two-year old without being admitted to the hospital. I do envy those parents who’s grandparents take the kids for the weekend. I wish I had that mental break. So please if you have parents that do this. Give them a hug and kiss and tell them how much they mean to you! Appreciate that bond!
And now to tackle a new week, but hopefully from a more patient perspective.
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