First off, I want to explain that there is a difference between hyper activity and ADD/ADHD. For starters ADHD children usually struggle to pay attention and focus on projects, games, tv shows, the teacher etc and bounce from activity to activity and are constantly fidgeting. Hyper active children can have bursts of energy and are very talkative, but can be calmed down if asked. With that said, it can still be confusing whether you simply have a hyper active child or a more serious condition like the two noted above. For Hyper Active Children, here are some things you can do to calm them down.
Have Them Work on Something
For a child who is ADD/ADHD, this doesn’t work because they have a problem focusing on the task at hand. For a child that is hyper active, they may enjoy the guided direction and the hyper activity may be a simple case of boredom. Have them join a sport if they are sports inclined. Using that pent-up energy may really help them to calm down in the hours they aren’t kicking a ball around a field or learning Taekwondo. My child isn’t sports inclined at all, so we have him take piano lessons. This helps him use his brain to read music, and helps him use two sides of his brain at one time, however he tends to get easily frustrated. My child has often gotten easily frustrated learning new things like riding a bike, tying shoes and yes learning the piano…but when he succeeds at something he owns it. I just tell him practice makes perfect.
Difusing Rough House Play
At night my boys go through a rough housing spell…I hate it. My couch pillows have seen better days and there has been many a bonked head when the rowdiness happens. At this point I redirect Jaydon by having him read a book that he picks out. He has to read at least 20 pages of the book before he can set it down unless it’s a shorter book. This helps with retention over the summer months as well. Speaking of retention, we do about a half hour of education retention worksheets each morning after breakfast. I’ve saved some incomplete worksheets my child has brought home from school, just so I can use them when I need him to do something calming. Since my son loves school, he loves when I bring out a worksheet for him. I do know not all kids feel the same way about worksheets. 😉
Set Special Time Aside Just For Them
Hyperactive kids often have pent-up feelings and those feeling can come out in forms of hyper activity. When you set some time aside for them, where you talk with them, snuggle, watch a movie or read a book, they now have your undivided attention and can talk to you about what might have been bothering them. This is a great time to have a heart to heart with your child and actually have eye contact and effective communication. Often children feel “talked at”, all day long, and are less likely to show they are listening when they feel like you aren’t “listening” to them. My son and I often have this special time about ten minutes at bed time where I lay with him in bed and he talks to me about his day. When your child knows they have your loving support and they can talk to you, some of that hyper activity might be calmed down.
Evaluate Your Own Attitude
Often we fight fire with fire. When our kids are loud and acting crazy we react by screaming or yelling to get them to calm down. This only escalates the situation and heightens feelings of distress both in parents and kids. Instead, get your child’s attention by a touch on the arm, look them in the eye and calmly say, “okay enough of the rough housing, lets calm down and do something quiet. What would you like to do, color, read a book or watch a movie?”
Been a crazy day? Maybe its time for some wind down activities. Start an early bath, help them build a reading fort tent, let them play with play dough, water colors, a craft project or a puzzle. You may even want to infuse calming aroma therapy with a diffuser in your child’s room or the room they’ll be playing in, as long as you are sure they won’t play with the diffuser. I like to save media time for times when I want my child to calm down or during routine quiet times instead of having it available whenever they like. I’m working on discovering more calming activities for Jaydon. Hopefully some of these ideas can help if you also have a hyper active child. I am still working on ideas here and if I come across any others, I’ll be sure to write about it here.
This blog is a personal blog written and edited by me, Heather Jones. For questions about this blog, please contact me via the “Contact Me” link on the top menu bar or click here. This blog accepts forms of cash advertising, sponsorship, paid insertions or other forms of compensation.
Disclosure Policy For Reviews / Guest/Sponsored Posts:
The compensation received may influence the advertising content, topics or posts made in this blog. That content, advertising space or post may not always be identified as paid or sponsored content.
The owner of this blog is compensated to provide opinions on products, services, websites and various other topics. Even though the owner of this blog receives compensation for posts or advertisements, I (we) always give our honest opinions, findings, beliefs, or experiences on those topics or products. The views and opinions expressed on this blog are purely the bloggers’ own. Any product claim, statistic, quote or other representation about a product or service should be verified with the manufacturer, provider or party in question.
To see more of my disclosure policy please click here.
Any Votes Are Always Appreciated! (And if you let me know you voted in the comments, they'll be returned!)