4 Possible Reasons You’re Struggling To Get Pregnant


Contrary to what you might think, getting pregnant is pretty tricky. There are so many factors to consider, and it might not happen as quickly as you assumed. Even if you’ve been pregnant before, that doesn’t automatically mean you can get pregnant again. If you’ve been trying for a while and it just doesn’t seem to be working, then here are some possible reasons behind your struggle:

It’s not you, it’s him

If you feel like you’re healthy and you’re ovulating pretty regularly, then it may seem confusing as to why you’re not conceiving. In reality, it could just come down to the other person in your partnership. A lot of the time, male infertility is the reason you’re struggling to get pregnant. If your partner isn’t fertile, then there’s not a chance you’ll be able to get pregnant.

There are plenty of telltale signs of male infertility that you can both observe at home to see if this might be the issue. If you have any suspicions, then it makes sense to book an appointment with a doctor and get tested. Thankfully, this problem can be solved by trying different techniques that can help boost their sperm count.

You’re no longer at the prime age

Sadly, the chances of you conceiving will reduce as you get older. Women over the age of 35 tend to start suffering from infertility problems. So, if you’ve already had children, but want one more, then this is commonly why it’s hard for you to get pregnant. The issue is two-fold; you’re producing fewer eggs, and you’re producing eggs that aren’t of a high enough quality. As a result, your chances of success are pretty low.

Unfortunately, there’s no way you can turn back time and make your body younger. So, the chances of improving your own egg quality when you’re older are pretty slim. The good news is, this doesn’t automatically mean you can’t have a baby. These days, there are places like ConceiveAbilities where you can get egg donors to help you conceive. This gives you the quality eggs you need, which allows you to be a mother once again. So, don’t think all hope is lost when you reach a certain age, there are still solutions out there.

There’s too much stress in your life

If age is the number one reason behind female infertility, then stress has to be a close second. We all know that stress is bad, but did you know it can prevent you from getting pregnant? It’s true, and it all comes down to your body and the signals being sent around it. Without getting too complicated, a stressed-out person’s body won’t be thinking about getting pregnant at all. Your hormones get thrown out of whack, and you’ve got too much on your plate to worry about.

The only positive thing to take from this is that it doesn’t have to be a permanent issue. If stress is the cause, then what do you have to do? Get rid of stress! Focus on unloading burdens from your life and reducing the stress you’re under. Try relaxation techniques to reset your body and get you feeling a lot calmer and less stressed.

You’ve not been trying for long enough!

I said right at the beginning of this post that you may have been trying for a while and haven’t seen any positive results. The question is, how long have you actually been trying for? Some people may be trying to get pregnant for 3 or 4 months and assume that things are going wrong. But, the fact is that most couples don’t conceive until at least 6 months of consistent trying. We’re talking attempts to conceive every month like clockwork, and even then we’re only talking about just over half of couples getting pregnant. Sometimes, it takes over 9 months of regular attempts until you see the positive result. If you’re struggling after 6 or so months then it might be worth looking for some better Positions to get pregnant, how to reduce stress and just try more often!

Bearing that in mind, have you really been trying for that long? If it’s been 6 months since you first tried, then keep at it for at least another 3 months, possibly more. Generally, I’d say give it a year to conceive, and then see a doctor to maybe assess if there’s an underlying infertility issue. Similarly, make sure you’re trying every month whenever you ovulate. Otherwise, you should expect to wait even longer before you get pregnant.

Regardless of whether you’re trying for your first baby or your fifth, there could always be problems with conception. If things seem hard for you, then it’s most probably down to one of the four reasons listed above.

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19 thoughts on “4 Possible Reasons You’re Struggling To Get Pregnant

  1. You’ve provided so many helpful tips. It unfortunate how so many women suffer from infertility issues.

  2. My youngest daughter and her husband are trying to get pregnant. It’s been a few months. They are young and this will be their first so I’m confident she will get pregnant soon. I’m going to show this to her.

  3. Those are good tips. I was in my twenties when I had my children so we had no problems, but several of my friends did have problems in their mid-thirties.

  4. There are so many women that struggle with this. I did for a little while myself and I know how frustrating it is. You have some great tips here and I think they would definitely help women!

  5. It would be hard to go through this. I can’t even imagine. But I can see how stress could prevent a pregnancy. These are some great reminders.

  6. It would be so difficult to want to get pregnant and not be able to and not know why or how come. It took me about 6 months to get pregnant with my children. Glad there is help out there for so many couple.

  7. What about being under weight?! That’s a huge one. Also, I couldn’t get pregnant for the longest time and was told I was infertile MANY OF TIMES – yet bam, here I am, 7 months pregnant. My husband has some POWERFUL swimmers! LOL!

  8. I’ve got 8 kids but what people don’t know is I’ve also had 4 miscarriages. Thankfully progesterone saved my last two pregnancies and babies. Often times people don’t know that there are many reasons one may not be able to get or keep pregnant.

  9. Thank you for talking about this! There are so many who get disheartened when pregnancy doesn’t happen right away. Sometimes they just need a little more time, while others might need additional help.

  10. Definitely agree about your points. Indeed it is not so easy to get pregnant. I have a friend who is struggling already for around 8 years but still not loosing hope. Maybe for some it is so easy but for others, its really a matter of patience and wanting to try.

  11. Getting pregnant is not easy at all. I know so many couples that have this problem and very often it is because of the stress!

  12. So many women struggle to get pregnant. There are several in my life who are dealing with, or have dealt with, this very emotional and painful issue. It really is heartbreaking.

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