Here’s to Getting Out of Another Funk

 

I’ve written a few post over the last couple of weeks about how I’m trying to adjust to life here since we moved. One post was about finding our new “normal”, our new routine…our new every day. Another post I wrote last Friday was about enjoying the here and now and not worrying about tomorrow or next year. I have to tell you, I have not practiced what I’ve preached. I’m still worrying about things that don’t need worrying about. You know what else I’ve discovered about myself….this whole week, my give a damn button broke. I left Braidy’s finished laundry sitting on a table in the kitchen the whole week. I let dishes pile up, didn’t blog once…I thought about quitting that too. I just couldn’t figure out the week. I was having a very off week…but maybe its more like an off month. I want to get back into cooking and experimenting with recipes and posting them right here, but then I think about the effort put into those kind of posts, the time I have, and I go nah….maybe next week. I’ve never been this way before. 

 

I find myself also caring too much about what other people think. A neighbor told me that I should drop that silly mom group and get Braidy into school and I was very taken back by the comment. She doesn’t know that these women are like my sisters. That I look forward to mom’s night out as soon as I leave the last mom’s night out each month. That I genuinely enjoy the company of all these moms. That I learn something from each and every one of them. That I feel like I’ve got this parenting thing down when I leave a play group and hear other moms going through some of the same things I’ve gone through. That I need play dates probably more than Braidy needs them. But there was some truth in what this person said. Braidy is a different child than my oldest. While teaching Jaydon phonics, math, reading pre-K worked, and because of all his socialization before Kinder, he went right into Kindergarten without problems socially or academically. But Braidy has not been receptive to what I’ve been trying to teach him and he fights the whole half hour a day process of learning just a few new things a day… and so with that, started our search for preschool. It wasn’t because I let what my neighbor said influence me, it was because I realized I have two different kids who learn in two different ways.

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So Braidy will be starting preschool next week! We let him check out a few places last week and he was very nervous and afraid I was going to leave him there, but we were just there to observe. He did leave with me excited about going to preschool. We picked out a lunch box and thermos for school and next week my preschooler will officially be going to preschool…and my heart is hurting over it. I think us parents look forward to milestones because we want our kids to grow and develop and become successful people, but we are sad that the baby days have passed by…and yet another milestone that makes me sad…. but also happy. I know my son will have a great time in preschool, get some structure…learn some things and it will prepare him for Kindergarten. 

But back to what I was saying about other people’s opinions. It wasn’t because we enrolled Braidy in pre-school because a neighbor thought we should, I had been thinking about it for almost a year now, but I found myself in that moment, once again thinking I’m doing this all wrong….this parenting thing. This woman has five grand children she is raising, and I have to tell you, they are not the best behaved or kindest children, yet I’ve let her on numerous occasions make me feel like I’m an inadequate  parent. It’s not just her…I’ve let the comments of complete strangers make me feel like I’m doing so much wrong. I need to have more confidence in my abilities. I think its very easy to feel taken advantage of when you don’t exude confidence. It doesn’t mean you need to be arrogant, confidence and arrogance are different…and I need to channel some confidence and a little bit of authority over my family and protecting them from things that could influence my kids in a bad way. I tend to feel like over politeness is the way to be….but honestly, I’ve been over polite…and then I get taken advantage of. I’m done with that.  

Are there things about yourself you wish you could change? I’m really going to start working on these things. My confidence, that I have authority over my home, what comes in my home and goes out of my home, that I don’t have to let politeness become something where I’m taken advantage of. I can do this!

 

 

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21 thoughts on “Here’s to Getting Out of Another Funk

  1. Some kids just need a little extra help. I’m finding that out now that my daughter is in kinder. Since her brother did so great with no pre-k, I thought she would too. She’s not, and I’m working hard to help her catch up to where she should be. We’re all just learning as we go in regards to this mom thing. Just do your best and forget the rest. 😉

  2. I’ve found that people who pass unfair judgment most likely will do it no matter what you say or do. Best to take what they say with a grain of salt, wave a friendly goodbye (because you’ve got to hurry up and get to the mom group you enjoy), and be glad they’re just neighbors (or even better, strangers). 🙂 Good luck with pre-school!! Totally get the happy/bittersweet thing. My son is getting so big now, and I’m so proud, but too I can’t hardly stand it. He’s my last little one!!

  3. I think recognising that your kids learn differently is a lovely start but you’ve been doing your best all this time. Don’t let other peoples comments bother you just continue doing what you’re doing. You’re doing great.

  4. I think you should just keep doing what you think is best for your kids, you’re their mom and you know what has to be done to make their lives better. You shouldn’t let the opinions of others give you self-doubt. You were given this two kids because you can raise them on your own without minding other people’s opinions.

  5. i think, you should do what you think you need to do to your kids, its your kids anyway, you know them than anyone else so you knows best. My daughter is stress with her academics in school while other mums are busy bringing their kids to after school class or activities. My daughter and I just spend the after class doing homeworks/reviews/ swimming pool. what matters is you know that your kids and you are doing good.

  6. Don’t be too hard on yourself, it does take time to adjust when you move. It has been a year since I move and I still haven’t unpacked most of my belongings.

  7. Take a deep breath and do what feels right for you! It’s not easy ignoring people but there are far too many busybodies out there! Everyone and every child’s needs are different.

  8. I’m sorry your neighbor doesn’t have a sense of civility or compassion. To denigrate your “silly” mom’s group is beyond the pale. You sound like you are very level-headed and will only do what is best for you and your family. It may be difficult and may take you some time but ignore those who only seek to make themselves feel better by trying to take someone else down.

  9. Whenever someone gives me advice that makes me think like “Really? Why would you say that?”, I would just try to keep calm and eventually I’ll realize that they don’t know who or what I am and how I am. Anyways, hope Braidy enjoys preschool!

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