How Do You Know You Are Done Having Kids?


Over the weekend we got a big snowstorm. I think about 8 to 10 inches fell, and after a winter being cooped up inside with two restless toddlers, there is something inside me screaming for Spring. I want to send the kids outside to play for at least a half hour every day. I want to get the bike trailer out and take them to the park on the bike. I myself would like to get some exercise…etc.

However, we didn’t let the snow put a damper on at least playing in it. This was B’s first experience ever playing in the snow. He came home from the hospital during a blizzard, and it snowed for a month after he was born, and he’s seen it out of the window and while in the car, but this was the first time he actually was big enough for a snowsuit and able to play in it for about 10 minutes.

The look on his face is priceless. He had a blast. While he was sitting in the snow, taking it all in. His big brother was marching off to make a snow angel. (In the background you can see something dark rising up by the fence line. That was J myster getting up after making a snow angel)

Anyway, you are wondering about the title of my post by now right?

I woke up Monday morning to my cell ringing before I even crawled out of bed. Monday was declared a snow day and when that happens everything is closed, even day care. So I had agreed to watch my friend’s three kids during times when they couldn’t go to preschool/day care. 20 minutes after that phone call, my house had 5 kids running around screaming in it.

I had quite some overwhelming moments, and I think it was then that I realized I really was done having kids. It’s funny because I used to run a home daycare and watched at one time 5 kids a couple of days a week, but I scheduled the whole day out to control any mayhem. Yesterday though, I was totally out of my element. But I did realize at some point after lunch time and seeing the table with dirty hand prints all over it, crumbs everywhere and cleaning up one dirty diaper after another and setting four kids on potties and wiping bottoms, that I didn’t want to add any more of that daily chaos to our home. I love my kids dearly, but this mama had her days taking care of babies and I’m glad I only do it sporadically now and that I just have two kids, not three or five like I once thought I wanted. 😉  

Anyway, having these five kids run around before I had even gotten my own kids’ breakfast or changed out of my PJ’s, was a real eye opener. It’s not that the kids were bad in any way, they were just full of energy and excited to not have school, I’m sure. J was excited to have friends over, so he was hyped out, and it’s just messy cleaning up after five kids.

But what can you do?  I am grateful that in addition to dropping her three kids off with me, that she also dropped off a Starbucks coffee.

So that is how I spent my Monday. Now I’m even more grateful for my two littles and can totally handle their shenanigans after a day dealing with five. 🙂

Today though, I am off to buy a big area rug for our den. We are turning our formal dining room into a den. We got the TV installed over the weekend and the couch is coming in a few weeks, but I found the perfect area rug that matches the coloring in some canvas prints I have on the wall. Totally excited about it.

And if you’ve noticed some color changes around here, yes, I sometimes get a wild hair and change the theme of my blog. I love these new girlie colors. Living in a house with all boys, this blog here is all I have that is girlie! HA!

Ok, now I’m off to take care of some stinkers!

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11 thoughts on “How Do You Know You Are Done Having Kids?

  1. Two is good. Then they can play with each other when they are older. My grandmother had 8. I don’t know how she did it. I do think though about how I’d put more than 2 kids thru college if we had anymore, and since I don’t think we’d be able to do it unless I go back to work, I think we are thinking of our long term goals to make sure we don’t either screw over our kids, or screw our retirement funds come the college years. So with that in mind, I see us only being able to get two kids thru college.

  2. 8 is definitely a lot of kids! I hope she had plenty of support!

    I’m not sure we will be able to get our kids through college at the rate they keep upping tuition!

  3. I think I like his thinking. I can get overwhelmed with two, and a bunch more to the mix and a mommy with no sleep and I’m no happy person. I’m still longing for 8 consecutive hours of sleep and with two kids sharing a room and one waking at all hours of the night, I just can’t add any more years of no sleep to the madness, I’m sure some get used to it, for me I just get bitchier. LOL

  4. I pretty much knew after my first. When she was about 5 I knew for sure we were done. Not only is she a handful but I don’t feel I am well enough mentally nor physically to be birthing more children. It’s unfair to all.

  5. Trish, my first is a handful, I’m so glad our second has a pretty low key happy personality because I don’t think I’d be able to live with two high strung drama kings! LOL!

  6. I don’t know if we are “done”. Yes, have three boys, and people think I am crazy for considering having another baby LOL But I would love to have a daughter! Of course I would be just as happy with a healthy baby boy. Hubby wants another little, but if we are going to try it will be a couple of years from now, when both of my oldest boys are in school and my little is 3 or 4! xoxo, Jessica

  7. See,if you were my grandmother, you would be on baby number 6 before she got a girl, she had 8 kids. Yikes! I think I’ve missed too much beauty sleep to go 20 years without sleeping more than 2 or 3 hours at a time, but maybe you just get used to it. After four years, I’m still a grouch on 3 or 4 hours of sleep. Like I said my grandmother (catholic/lutheran) did a large family with no thought. That was just the “way” then. I am soo not as skilled as her. LOL.

  8. The goal for our family is 4. When I say goal that is the ideal number we would like to have. I really want 2, and we are planning on 2 for definite. 3 and 4 will be thought about a little harder when we have more experience behind us.

  9. Lol – I’m thinking the opposite about kids. I’m watching The Duggars on tv at the gym, and they just make me want to have more. Not only that, but the hubby’s co-worker asked him if we were having more kids. Instead of the standard “no” – he said maybe in a year or two! So, I guess it’s more of a never-say-never for us right now. 🙂

    PS – loving the blog colors!

  10. LOL, well I think its different when you watch them as apposed to having them. When they are your own, you love them beyond anything else and I do agree, the Duggars run their home like a well oiled machine. They definitely know how to do large families right. My grandmother had 8 kids. 5 boys and 3 girls and She also ran her home kinda like the Duggars. Everyone had a job and knew their job. Me however, I guess I didn’t get the baby bug. I thought I did, but after two boys and no baby sitter for 4 years, I’m kinda burnt out. I don’t readily have family willing to spend time with my kids so I can get a break.

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