There comes a time in any Mothers life, where you will need a time out. The longer you put it off, the more of a danger you are putting on yourself, because believe it or not – parenting is hard. And exhausting. And overwhelming at times. This doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy it, or that we would ever change anything. It’s just a fact. And if you don’t allow yourself some time to recuperate, you will end up burning out and falling into a not so nice trap of uncertainty and even depression.
It’s not something to take lightly. So if you feel as though you’re beginning to reach the edge of sanity, then it’s definitely time you tap out for a while. This can be as simple as taking thirty minutes out of your daily routine every single day, to breathe, and focus yourself, and make yourself aware of your surroundings and all the wonderful things you have in your life. This is simple, yet extremely effective. You just have to be willing to make the effort and remember to do it, but it’s a great start.
But what about when your kids are nagging and complaining about being bored and wanting to do things when you just don’t feel up to them? Well, fortunately for you, there are many ways to keep them occupied when you need some time off. One thing to remember is that you should never feel guilty for feeling this way. Parenting is a full-time job, and regardless of how much you love your children – it gets exhausting! And you should never feel bad for admitting that or wanting a break. It’s normal. You’re doing a great job. You just need some down time once in a while to recharge your batteries.
Here’s how this can be done.
Leaving the house on a warm sunny day.
If the weather is on your side, make the most out of it and go to your local park with your kids. Bring a football and whatever they like to play with, and pack a bag with food so that you can have a picnic together. Nature is a beautiful thing, and there’s no better place to lie down and feel the sun on your skin, than in the park, smelling the cut grass and flowers, as your children play. Sure, you’re still being the parent, but you’re getting all of the other benefits too. You could even invite a few of your own friends out to join you. This will take a bit of the pressure off as you have other sets of eyes to watch your children, while you can let yourself go a little.
Ask the grandparents for a little help.
If you have parents that still play a big part in your life, then a good idea is to ask them for a little bit of help. Ask if they’d be up for making memories for a few hours, or even overnight so you get to really appreciate the time you have and unwind. This is a great option because you know your children are in the safest of hands and are with people who love them. If you can’t ask your parents, there might be someone else in the family who can help or even a best friend. They are there for you no matter what, just like your family, so tell them you’ll owe them the next time they have a favor to ask you.
Allow them to create their own virtual world.
Some people often seem to look down on video games sometimes because they think that it’s not productive, but in fact, depending on the kind of game you allow your children to play, can teach them so many skills, and improve things like their reflexes, and hand-eye coordination, as well as teaching them about historical events and communication. Role-playing games are a big hit these days. While recommended to kids over 13, if old enough, they could play Final Fantasy 15. They will be able to create their own empire while slaying dragons, finding lost treasure, and building up an army to take back what’s theirs.
The beauty of sleepovers.
Sleepovers may seem rather daunting if it’s being done at your house, but bear in mind when they have a friend over, they’re occupied by them and will no longer feel the need to bug you about how bored they are. They’ll most likely play in the bedroom, or the garden, while you put your feet up and relax. Sure, you’ll need to cook, but hey – it’s the weekend, you can always order a pizza. The other thing about a sleepover that some of you may not be aware of, is the fact that once it’s been done at your house, it is then the parent of your child’s friend’s turn. So book in advance and plan how you’re going to spend your quiet evening.
Now you have some ideas; it’s down to you to put them into action. One other important factor to think about is whether or not you still have a social life. The moment we have children, we’re so consumed by them, that we no longer even think about seeing our girlfriends and doing all the activities that we used to do. You may not even feel like you need or want to do that anymore because you’re a Mommy now. And while you may think this in the beginning, you may start to realize that you’re actually very lonely. Especially as your child gets older. This is why it’s so important to cherish your social life, and still make time for everyone. This doesn’t mean that you’re a bad Mom, or you’re selfish – it just means that you aren’t going to let your whole network and support system disappear now that you’ve had a child – and that’s a good thing. So hold on to the people you have around you. You’ll need them.
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