I’m sure you all by now have seen the viral post of the mom who dumped her three kids’ ice creams in the trash for not saying thank you to the employee who gave them their treats. I’ve seen both sides of this argument and first of all, I’m going to say I don’t think the mom went too far.
But in case you are out of the loop, here’ s the post where she talked about this moment on Facebook:
Lets just entertain the idea here that there is more than one way to parent a child and often the way a child has acted in other circumstances that have not been seen by the general public dictates a parent’s decisions on how to parent in the next incident.
I’m just going to take my kids for example here. My kids are not your kids, my youngest is not like my oldest. I have to use different techniques with my oldest than I do with my youngest. They react to things differently. Another person’s kids may have absolutely no problem with kindness and manners and saying thank you etc, while someone else’s children do find it to be a problem. Lets just throw an autistic child into the mix here, saying thank you to a stranger might be really hard for an autistic child, so you obviously can’t use a cookie cutter situation when we don’t have cookie cutter children.
I would like to say that I’ve had a similar incident with my oldest when it came to thanking someone. It didn’t result in throwing out an ice cream, but it did result in a verbal reprimand. We were at Sam’s Club and there were people at carts giving customers samples of food. My kids really wanted to try some sorbet and I let them. My four-year old said thank you, my seven-year old did not and I asked him to go back and say thank you. He gave me an annoyed look, huffed at me and stomped back over to the lady, and in a sarcastic whiny tone said “Thank you”. I was so upset at his demeanor and his heartless thank you that I took him down another aisle and told him that was not a proper thank you and we had a talk about being humble and kind. Even in that moment, he was still only half listening because he had a sorbet sample in his hand and was more consumed with what he was eating, than listening to what I was saying at the moment. If I would have handled the situation properly, I should have thrown his sample in the trash. He was too absorbed in what he was eating and I had to repeatedly say, “DO YOU UNDERSTAND!?” Which also resulted in a sarcastic “yes mom!!”. If I could have gone back and did it differently, I think tossing out the sorbet would have been a better approach on my part. It certainly would have grabbed his attention, but part of the reason I didn’t do it was the fear of his tantrum in a public place.
And that’s where we’ve come in today’s society. We don’t want our children to throw tantrums like that because people might look at us and judge our parenting.
Guess what, you, ME…everyone has to stop judging people when their kids throw giant tantrums in public places. Kids are still trying to emotionally develop and deal with disappointment and often until they reach a certain age, the tantrum doesn’t go away. If a mom is standing there letting her chid throw a fit instead of giving in to that child’s wants just to “quiet them”, GO MOM!!! Good for her for putting her foot down!
I should have done what “Ice Cream Mom”, Jaime Sullivan did. I know the message I was attempting to leave with my seven-year old would have probably stayed with him.
So lets all remember there is more than one way to parent and every child doesn’t fit into the same mold. Every parent doesn’t parent the same way, but if we all parent out of love and wanting to teach our children to be respectful, successful adults one day, we often have to teach our kids the hard lessons they aren’t seeming to pick up, by doing something a little extreme. And honestly throwing ice cream out I don’t think is too extreme. It certainly grasped her kids attention and I’m certain the next time they grace an ice cream parlor or restaurant again, they will use their manners.
And I love Jaime’s response in the video below to all the nay sayers out there and I agree with her completely. It was a teachable moment. In this world I want to raise kind, respectful, successful adults, not little assholes.
What do you think? Was she over the top, or did she use the moment to teach her kids a valuable lesson?
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