One of the things that I’ve always struggled with and that I can actually see in both my children is that I/we struggle with balance. In fact I made that my word for 2016. I really want to aspire to achieve balance in my life. The trouble I have is that I become hyper focused. Hyper focused can be both good and bad, but in my case it was bad. When you are hyper focused, all the other things you need to get done are pushed off and become inconveniences, thus putting you out of balance.
Hyper focused people can be really successful intelligent people able to achieve things others can’t because they put in more time and commitment toward that one task, but at the same time hyper focused people tend to view all other things as inconveniences and time suckers. This puts you out of balance. The problem with being hyper focused is that you are usually unhappy, agitated or stressed when you “HAVE” to do other things that seemingly get in the way of the one thing you’d rather be doing or the one thing you feel you HAVE to do to succeed.
It’s a problem because it can lead to defeat if what you’ve been hyper focused on turns out to be a failure. The feeling can be so discouraging it can lead to depression.
So what can hyper focused people do to help them achieve balance?
Hyper focused people need to create breaks in their day where they do something completely different. Whether its taking the dog for a walk, hitting the gym for a run, making dinner for the family, or watching a family movie, if you make it a part of your daily schedule, people tend to keep up with it better. It will be changing your routine that will be the hard part.
Hyper Focused people also tend to be list makers, so if you know you need to do it, put it on your list. The problem however is when the list gets too long, because hyper focused people actually believe they can achieve everything on their to do list within the given time frame. Reality sets in when the day comes to a close and they realize they’ve only hit a quarter of their to-do list. They’ve over scheduled themselves, they are feeling stressed, and feelings of defeat come walking right on in day after day.
The reality most people face is learning to commit the appropriate amount of time for a certain task. You either over schedule yourself or you are so focused that you’ve let time slip away and you realize you can’t finish it in that time frame and now you have other commitments creeping in. But the side of you committed to quality control, doesn’t want to stop, IT HAS TO BE PERFECT.
Hyper focused people tend to be perfectionists and possibly a little OCD. Neither of those are bad things…but like I said above, it’s about achieving balance. So if you walk away with anything from this post today. Know that I am learning where my weakness is here and I am wanting to change that.
It will require telling myself this daily:
I want to achieve balance more than my desire to achieve perfectionism…
I want to achieve balance more than my desire to “GET IT AL DONE NOW”….
I want to achieve balance because balance leads to happiness…
Balance makes room for the people in your life that matter…
and balance is healthy!
What other things can you think of to achieve balance in your life? Do you tend to hyper focus as well?
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