It Took A Year, But I’m Finally Looking Forward

 

The anniversary of when we packed up our lives and moved to a different state happened just a few weeks ago. You know how when Facebook reminds you of events that have occurred in the past? Well, that day appeared in my timeline and up until that day and especially on that day, I was not looking forward. I was still living in the past. I was still dwelling on what couldn’t be changed and not truly embracing it. Even though I didn’t think I was, I was still living in the past…

You can not embrace your future when you keep reliving past events in your life. 

Yeah, it was sad…for some of us, but hella exciting for my husband who hasn’t regretted one day of our move. He’s had so much fun adventuring, and you know what? I have too! We truly have done things we probably never would have done if we hadn’t of moved. In a few weeks, we’ll be hitting the road to visit two more states I’ve never been to. Once again, we wouldn’t have even considered doing this had we stayed in Arizona. We wouldn’t have had these experiences or these memories. 

So I finally pushed past the feelings of loss. It almost felt like a death. In a big way, it was. It was the death of living in that place I had so grown to love over the last 12 years. But it was a rebirth of another life just waiting for me down hundreds of miles of windy highways, through mountain ranges, through humble living arrangements and it finally fully birthed itself on the other side of the Rocky Mountains.

So while I brooded and dwelled. I woke up a few mornings later after that one year anniversary finally feeling like it was a turning point in my perspective.

It just suddenly shifted. 

I had lived feeling like nothing was permanent for so long, I couldn’t give myself permission to accept what was. I felt like at any moment If I gave myself permission to love it, it would be taken away. 

Whether its taken away a year or two down the road, in six months, in ten years, or ever, I’ve been through it before. I know what it feels like and I know how to survive it. I now know not to fall so in love with that life I pictured and planned out in my head that it leaves no room for adventure and growth. I now realize that was my biggest mistake. For people who are planners, when things change like this, it feels so upsetting. But, life has a way of changing on you whether you like it or not. So you have to learn to roll with the punches and enjoy the process. There’s so much growth in the process.

 

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20 thoughts on “It Took A Year, But I’m Finally Looking Forward

  1. Absolutely agree with you on this. The more we think we can control our lives, the more anxious and unhappy we get. Roll with the punches is a good way to go.

  2. We were Air Force so we moved all the time. I always looked on it as an adventure and someplace new I had never been too and could explore. Glad you are doing some traveling and doing new things.

    1. Oh, Air Force! You know I wish one of my boys would get into the air force. They can join right here from their home state. I think career opportunities are amazing with the military.

  3. I’ve lived in the same home for years now but we have thoughts of relocating to be closer to one of our grown kids. That’s a scary thought…out of the comfort zone.

  4. Variety is the spice of life. i wish I could buy a camper van and spend my time exploring. I would love it!.

  5. I am glad that you’re settling and are finding happiness. I am looking to move and it will be a huge change. I like feeling like “home” and I Don’t feel home here with my kiddos. The kiddos and I need our own changes.

  6. We moved to our home last July and I only recently started feeling settled and comfortable. Last week we signed a 5 year lease so we will be in this home for at least another 5 years and nothing feels better. I don’t want to move any time soon.

    1. Wow, I didn’t know you could sign five-year leases, I thought they were all 1 year or six months. But being able to sign a five-year lease really can help you feel settled and give you that feeling of permanence.

  7. We’ve moved around quite a bit. But will be staying where we are now for a good while and I’m so glad. I want my kids to be settled and not have to worry.

    1. It looks like we will be staying here for a while too. I hope through high school for the kids so they can feel settled. You never know though what life throws at you, so I’ve learned not to love something too much.

  8. Ive been through the same thing and you’re an inspiration for me. Glad to know you can finally look forward!

    1. Well thanks Erika! You know we all go through things others can’t see on the service. It makes it so hard sometimes. Sometimes we just have to reach that breaking point and then we realize the only way out is up. 😉

  9. Oh how I can relate! We are creeping up on our 2 year mark of our move from Boston to Tampa, I am still settling in, we’ve bought a home, settled into schools, but still working on finding doctors we love while working through the occasional home sickness thanks mostly to social media. But we still keep looking forward. Congrats on your move and settling in!

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