It’s been a while since I posted on Heartfully Heather. I think I’m now ready to start blogging again, maybe not as regularly as I was before, but maybe a couple of times a month. I work pretty hard subbing for the school district these days. After my mother in law passed away, life got pretty depressing. It’s not that we were that close to her that made it hard, but some things were revealed in our marriage that proved we needed to take some time to work on it. In fact, it was vital that we worked on it for the stability of our marriage. I am certain that every marriage goes through times of adjustment, times of reflection and time where you have to relearn what drives and motivates your partner and what your partner needs most out of the marriage. Sometimes years can go by with something wrong and we don’t address issues because we don’t want to argue, so we silently hold grudges. I confess to that. There ends up being a hushed sense of topics forbidden to talk about because you know it will end in a blow-up. We knew we were at that stage of marriage where we felt there was nothing the other person could do to make anything better. So we sought counseling and we are still going and we are working through our things. I’m not embarrassed to admit that we needed help. While nothing is perfect, we are inching closer to “our perfect”. Our perfect doesn’t look like any other marriage, but it’s what works for us that matters most.
With this on the uphill mend knowing we will be working on our marriage for years to come, we’ve decided that there’s no time but now to start doing the things we love doing. There’s often not a lot my husband and I have in common. When it comes to sports, I’m mediocre about them. I like watching from time to time but I’m not passionate about them, my team can lose and I’ll be okay about it. Outside of that, there’s really nothing else we have in common except one thing! We enjoy road trips and being out in nature. That is the one thing that ties us together: planning for our next adventure. We’ve learned through the death of my mother in law that debts (most of them are washed away when you die) That people can plan and plan for retirement, then die a few days after retirement. We learned about someone who planned to RV right at retirement and died three days into it. Or you find out a year before your retirement that your wife has cancer (happened to a friend of ours). So a lot of people’s experiences have told us that tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Obviously, hard work is a must if you want to enjoy the finer things in life. So when our tax return came in, we bought this baby:
I’m glad I’m working because we have a plan that my income (all of it every paycheck) will be used to pay off one credit card at a time until we are debt free, helping us come closer and closer to our dream of living on the road after the kids are adults. I’m also planning on expanding my VA (Virtual Assistant Business) to include more clients that I can work with no matter my location. But in the meantime, we are taking advantage of every RV sunset, every lakeside fishing opportunity, every destination we can find to enjoy the beauty of this earth God made for us to explore.
How are you working toward your dreams?
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