When Society Punishes Stay At Home Moms


I was inboxed this video a few days ago that really pulled at my heart-strings and I want to know what you think about it as well. See I made a decision to stay home with my kids for several reasons. For one the extremely high cost of childcare made it seem like 90 percent of my income was going to childcare. Times that by how many children you have and it can seem like you are just working to send the kids to DayCare or preschool. Second, I really wanted to be there for those first milestones with my kids and develop that bond what they say is the most important five years developmentally in a child’s life.

Now trust me, I understand that ever situation is different every family is different and I do occasionally send my three-year-old off to a wonderful drop in center for some socialization along with the mom’s group I’m apart of. I see the benefits in pre-school and day care and I’ve seen the downside too. One of the downsides is having your child burnt out on school by the time they reach kindergarten. Kindergarten?! That can’t be right? But statistics have shown a dramatic rise in fatigue when it comes to school in those that have attended pre-school. 

I believe every family does what is right for their family whether it’s a daycare type situation, pre-school or being a stay at home parent, these are always considerations every family has to look at some time or another.  

This video really got me to thinking quite hard about when the time comes for when I want to seek employment other than the freelance jobs I occasionally get as a writer right now. Being able to stay home with my kids is something I consider a privilege, a necessity (right now)  and a right as a parent. I shouldn’t have to explain to anyone why I took years off to help raise my kids. It should just be understood. I’d rather a company test out my abilities than automatically assume that I am out of touch with today’s working world just because I took some time off. 

Whether you’ve been forced out of workplace due to the cost of child care, or you chose to stay home during the younger years of your children’s lives, how do you think moms returning to work after several years can be recognized in the workforce as assents, not liabilities? 


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I'm just a wife and mom of two boys trying to find her place in this world. I enjoy walks around the lake, bible journaling, and RV camping with my family.

23 thoughts on “When Society Punishes Stay At Home Moms

  1. I couldn’t agree more. What one chooses go do isn’t anyones business. I love being a stay at home working mom, I wouldn’t have it any other way!

  2. I quit my job almost 10 years ago to stay at home when our 1st child was born. I am thankful that I have been able to stay home and homeschool, society does think SAHM do nothing but sit on the couch and eat bon bons, it is a tough job.

  3. I’m a stay at home mom too and have worked of several years before quitting my job. I do feel the same, and there is really no easy way out for us! Motherhood overall is rewarding no matter what 🙂

  4. I think that mom’s trying to get back in the work force has a major advantage for those who are looking to hire. We have dealt with screaming kids, sickness, messes, financial issues and more. SO for a resume mom’s should put on there “in the last 7 years I have been a Dr, mediator, a financial guru, and dealt with many screaming people. I think this job would be easy compared that!

  5. My kids were very fortunate to have a stay at home mom for their early years. Recently, my wife and I are both home getting our small business up off the ground, and I’ve seen first hand the amazing skills my wife honed as a busy stay at home mom. As our company grows, we’ll be looking for dedicated employees, and I think any woman (or man) who opts to take the primary role in raising their kids for the first few years demonstrates one of the best assets needed in a great company: loyalty.

    Steve “The Mad Scientist”

    1. A Steve, thank you for your perspective on this! And I would want to work for a company that sees how loyal I was to my children during those first few years. Thank you!

  6. Tough call. I’m certainly with you, as a SAHM myself. I’m not sure how it will play re-entering the workforce. There’s a good chance I’ll freelance graphic design, so I won’t need a employer to hire me as an employee, so I think that helps.

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