When Your Perspective Makes You Unhappy


I think when we live in an established world, a society that functions among still a lot of dysfunction, we have a skewed perspective of our lot in life. I have spent some time lately feeling sorry for myself. Feeling like things are being taken away from me and thinking how unfair it is that this is happening. Yet, I had the privilege of traveling to Colorado this weekend in search of a new home. We could drive there and spend some time together as a family without fear of being considered an outsider and having someone turn us away from services due to the color of our skin, our religion or the country we came from. We could eat at a nice restaurant and stay in a nice hotel in search of our new home. We are not starving. In fact, we ate so much food I felt sick on our 500-mile trek back home.

So many people in war-torn worlds would love to have our problems. Relocating from a place that I’ve considered perfect was a devastating thought for me. Yet, in all that will happen during our big move, I will have shelter every step of the way, whether it’s a roof over my head in an RV, or a hotel room, or a house, I will have shelter, clothing, and food. I will have more than so many people out there. We don’t really grasp the magnitude of being a refugee or being homeless, just by seeing those images on TV. We can always turn off the tv and not see what is broadcast on the news and pretend worlds like that don’t exist. We are privileged. When I start to feel sorry for myself again, I will remember that I have friends, family, shelter, food, clothing, transportation, and sanctuary. I have these things and these things alone make me rich. Relocating is a minor inconvenience and in times where Facebook is so prevalent in people’s lives, where people are a phone call away, how disconnected are we really? Not very. I’ve feared the disconnect. The thought of being far away from people I love. But airplanes, vehicles, Facebook and Skype solve those problems for the most part when hugs are not available.  

My perspective has been skewed and I’ve felt sorry for myself when there was no need. I’m now going to embrace these things and remember that I have it better than so many people out there and feeling sorry for myself is kind of selfish when you take our problems and throw them into the pool of what everyone else’s problems are. They are minor inconveniences. I now know we will be fine and our lives will be richer for the experiences we will gain. 

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I'm just a wife and mom of two boys trying to find her place in this world. I enjoy walks around the lake, bible journaling, and RV camping with my family.

23 thoughts on “When Your Perspective Makes You Unhappy

  1. I agree with you so much about this. To be honest, it’s all about how we see things. If we look at our problem as the biggest thing in the world, that exactly how we’re going to feel.

  2. Our perspective affects everything in our lives. What we perceive to be the truth IS the truth, at least to us. It’s important to remember that our truth isn’t always THE truth.

  3. This is an awesome post! Your perspective, the way you see things, definitely affects your day to day mood and everything about it. If you change your attitude, you can then start the process to change your life.

  4. I am always saying that perspective is everything. It is human nature to feel sorry for ourselves now and then so don’t be hard on yourself but yes indeed we need to look at the other side of things.

  5. I call these {moments of clarity} and absolutely adore them! They remind me of how blessed I am to have such a beautiful life and allow me to find joy in helping those that are not as fortunate.

  6. I try to start each day thinking about all my blessings I have in my life. It is a great way for me to set my tone for the day.

  7. Whenever I’m feeling like this, I try to look down. That’s to remind me that I am blessed because there are so many unfortunate ones who needs more help and blessings like I do.

  8. This is a great post on when your perspective make you unhappy. We all tend to feel sorry for ourselves not thinking about others who have it much worse than ourselves. It is food for thought we should all try to remember. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  9. I’m sure this happens often too. I try to look at the bright side myself. It’s never fun to feel unhappy.

  10. Glad you could turn this negative into a positive. There are people out there who have it way worse than what we do and we tend to take our good fortune for granted. I think Memorial Day weekend is a great weekend to reflect on what we have and why we have it, and be thankful that we do.

  11. Perspective is everything. I can easily feel sorry for myself and the situation I am in but at the same time it has saved my life (it’s a medical device that I have to live with now). I need to think of it as I am chosen to live rather than I was forced to live like this.

  12. Perception can make or break a person or situation. I know that I need to work on my perceptions, but sometimes, that is easier said than done.

  13. Seriously, I enjoyed reading this post again and again. It reminds me how blessed I am to be thanked for. Thank you for sharing your opinions.

  14. We all get so caught up in the moment of what we’re doing every day, it’s hard to hit that reset button and get pulled away from all that and see life from a different perspective.

  15. I have been there too. My life is truly amazing. Right now I am watching the sunrise in Hilton Head while vacationing with my entire family. I need to count my blessings when I start worrying about bumps in the road..

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